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Courage: How Fear Keeps Me Going

We admire people who are courageous. Better yet, we are inspired by them. They are giants in our eyes, whatever their physical stature. Even the smallest person can be a giant, a ‘force of nature’, if they are courageous.

What could you become, if you had a little more courage?

We could all do with a bit more courage. At least, I know I could. Anyone know any one selling courage in a bottle? I wish!…I don’t mean drugs. Although drugs can disinhibit us and give us a temporary ‘courage’ (if we can even call it that), it’s not always appropriate to be ‘under the influence’ and it certainly isn’t always healthy. I don’t think that the benefit of drug-induced ‘courage’ outweighs the costs.

Holding Back From Your Dream?

One of the biggest things that kept me from starting off on my dream of become a pilot was fear. How paradoxical then that one of the biggest things that made me finally pursue my dream of becoming a pilot was fear.

Fear can keep you from trying new things, from expressing yourself fully and from making yourself vulnerable. However, fear isn’t only an inhibiting force. It can enable you to run faster than you ever have, jump higher than you ever thought you could and endure far more than you ever have.

I’ve had the dream and hope of becoming a pilot, for as long as I can remember. That was the carrot. It was calling me forth, to an adventure unlike any I had ever embarked on. Interestingly, I didn’t do much about it. I stayed in my comfort zone, waiting to pursue my dream at a more convenient time.

What Will Happen If You Don’t Try?

What sprung me into action was the development of a new, more powerful fear than that which held me back. Instead of being shackled by the fear of what would happen if I went for my dream, I was pushed by the fear of what would happen if I didn’t.

I realised that life could actually pass me by, that I could spend another another 6 years, and then another, and another, and never get any closer to my dream.

I became afraid of being an old man and having my dream turn into nothing more than a bitter regrets. I became afraid of living a life of insignificance, doing everything other than the very thing I’m most passionate about.

I am afraid of becoming the kind of person I would become, if I were to allow fear to shackle and keep me from the righteous pursuit of living my dream. That person is neither the kind of person I would admire, nor the kind of person I would be inspired by.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not suggesting that fear is the best fuel or motivator to get anyone to their goal. Hope is a powerful, sustainable and enduring force.

I’m just saying, if you must fear, fear what would happen if you didn’t pursue that which you know to be the most valuable pursuit, even in your own estimation.

Live your dreams. After all, is there anything better to do?

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Keep The Main Thing The Main Thing

Don’t spend major time on minor things.

Jim rohn

One of the mantras that has kept me focused this week is, “keep the main thing, the main thing”. When I shared it with colleagues in the staffroom, during our lunch break, my mantra was met with a, ‘huh?’, along with an expression like that of a cow staring at a new gate. Hopefully I can do better this time around.

Aviate. Navigate. Communicate.

As a student pilot, there is so much for me to learn and it is easy to become task saturated in the cockpit – having much to do and not much time to do it in. Of course, I have my flight instructor with me, but only for now. At some point, it will be all down to me. As such, it is important for me to be able to separate what needs to be done immediately from what can wait – I must prioritise. If I don’t, I could easily end up a statistic. 

Everyday, we are thrown into numerous situations requiring us to navigate an insane amount of choices and arbitrate between competing priorities. We encounter people who have their own agendas and if we are not careful, their agenda inadvertently becomes our agenda, and before we know it, we are further away from our goals and desires.

As a student pilot I have to learn to fly the aeroplane, to navigate and to communicate with the appropriate Air Traffic Service Unit. Inevitably, there are times when these 3 priorities clash. I might find myself in a position where I am lost, not in complete control of the aircraft whilst also being required to respond to a call.

There are 3 really important things to do in this situation: fly the plane, fly the plane and fly the plane! It cannot be overstated. If I lose control of the plane and find myself plummeting to the ground, navigating and communicating become somewhat irrelevant to my outcome.

Identify Your Goal In Any Given Situation

“If you aim at nothing, you will hit every time.” 

Zig Ziglar

One of the great things about the mantra I have been using is that it prompts me to identify what my true priority is in that moment. This was particularly useful when I was frustrated due to feeling like things were not going the way I wanted them to go. As such, I realised I didn’t have to win every single battle and have everything go my way. I only needed one specific thing out of my day, out of my interaction or whatever situation I was in. 

Consider what you are doing now. What is your goal? What is the main thing? You may have to wrestle with your goals and desires a while before the true priority reveals itself. Your priority, your main thing, will differ with each situation. It might be to listen, to think, to plan, to simply get started, to create a terrible first draft, to be playful, to be yourself, to save money, to collect data, to support, to rest, to learn something new or to progress, and so on.

Distractions are everywhere, available free of charge. Some distractions are clear, while others come in a disguise. Like cunning thieves, distractions can steal your resources – time, money, energy – and leave you further from your goal. To give yourself the best chance of reaching your goal and living your dream, make sure you keep the main thing, the main thing. 

The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing.

Stephen Covey

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The Challenge of Being Imperfect, With A Perfect Imagination

You never realise just how pathetically unskilled you are at something until you get started. Sure, there are times when your innate abilities and previously attained skills will carry you through, but most of the time when you are truly broadening your horizons, you’ll find yourself in the land of uselessness. At the very least, this seems to be true in my case. But, does that mean you should stop? Does that mean you can’t learn?

One of the greatest challenges of being human, I think, is the fact that we are imperfect beings with perfect (or arguably naive) imaginations. No one ever imagines themselves being useless, least of all when they are mentally, emotionally, physically and financially invested in achieving a righteous goal.

Sure, people hold back at times because they feel they won’t be any good. However, when we decided to go for something, and invest everything that we have and everything that we are into a goal, we rarely ever imagine ourselves being shockingly terrible at it. If we did, we just wouldn’t do it.

I had one of those ‘shockers’ not too long ago during one of my flying lessons. Sitting on the left-hand seat, in the cockpit of the Piper Pa28, my instructor asked if I was ready to make the initial radio call. I had never made a radio call to an Air Traffic Service Unit before, but I had practised over and over, before the lesson, just in case. Needless to say, when the time came to deliver the good, I completely butchered it! (See for yourself: My RT Call Fail)

I was slow. I didn’t give all the necessary information. My read back was incorrect. I even used the wrong callsign at the end; a great way to crown an amateur radio call. It’s one thing to master it on your own. Delivering the goods in the moment, under pressure, with lots of other things on your mind at the same time, that’s something else. That, I certainly didn’t do.

You might say I am being harsh with myself. You’re right! Of course it was amateur attempt. What else did I expect? What were the chances that it would be professional level, at my first attempt? It isn’t failure that is a surprise, it’s success that should be baffling.

“You will never improve at something you haven’t started.”

Future Pilot Niner One

It is far easier to see the bigger picture when you are looking into the frame, as opposed to standing in it. When we are the ones in the hot seat, it is much harder to be charitable to ourselves, and yet it is necessary. It is the challenge of being an imperfect being, with a perfect, or arguably naive, imagination.

It is easy to stay within the limits of your comfort zone. There, you are a great success with consistent victories. Beyond that, everything looks foggy, uncertain and chaotic. However, despite others being impressed with you, you might find yourself haunted by the idea that you can do, achieve and be more.

To realise the potential buried within you, you must go beyond your current comfort zone – carefully, methodically but certainly. Beware! The more that you venture beyond the bounds of your current capabilities, the more you expose yourself to the possibility of failure and the discovery of your current inadequacies, in light of your goal.

As much as you might imagine yourself being perfect in your process of growth – not making the dumbest mistakes along the way, always feeling motivated and ‘up for the task’, taking 2 steps forward and no steps back and people always having your back and so on – the real world doesn’t conform to your imagination.

Besides, there is something far more real and more important than trying to live up to the perfect and perfectly illusive conjurings of the imagination, it’s called ‘progress’. There is something more satisfying, it’s called ‘effort’.

I am encouraged by the words CT Fletcher who says that there is victory in knowing that you did all you could do. I am encouraged by the words of Jordan B Peterson when he says, “Just because you have faults doesn’t mean you have to stop. Just because you have faults doesn’t mean you can’t learn.”

Remember that when you venture, even tentatively, beyond your comfort zone in an attempt to become something more than what you currently are. Your mistakes reveal where you are now, allowing you to more accurately plot your path towards what you could be.

The path to success is paved with many failures – even the kinds of failures that we never imagined. Every failure is an opportunity to learn. Every lesson learned unlocks further progress. Every bit of progress means we are truly closer to our goal, when compared to where we started.